FOSTER CARE Q&A – adoption? the hardest part? saying no?

    This month marks two year since we started the process to be approved to be a foster family.

    It’s crazy how much life has changed and the number of kids in our home has gone up and down since then!

    And now we are approaching the time in the lives of our current foster kids where they have almost been in our home for as long as the time before they were in our home.


    Foster Care Q & A - the hardest part of fostering? adoption? saying no?


    I want to continue to use this blog to raise awareness for foster care and adoption and I’m branching out to include YouTube in this as well.

    I may be that weird person with three YouTube channels because I can’t just focus on one thing.

    Today I wanted to tackle some common foster care questions I get asked.

    If you have questions for a future foster care or adoption Q & A, let me know!


    Foster Care Q & A - the hardest part of fostering? adoption? saying no?


    You can check out our foster care timeline here and all the foster care blog posts here.




    One Year With R2D2 – Another Fostering Update

    Wow, here we are. I can’t believe that today marks one year that R2D2 has been with us!

    This is the longest we’ve ever had a placement and truth be told: we’re pretty attached to him.

    The last year has been a rollercoaster of emotions, mainly because we have no idea what is going on with R2 in regards to how long he will be in our home. It feels like we just wrap our minds around one idea (like him staying or him going home soon) and then it changes.

    A couple of weeks ago I figured he would probably be out of our home by the end of February.

    Then that all changed when his sister, BB8, came to live with us.

    Well, maybe.


    Wondering: How long our foster son, R2 will be with us


    Since I shared a mini update last week we’ve had a little bit more of an update.

    There are a few different “options” floating around out there:

    1. BB8 goes home in about a week. (This would be the ministry’s ideal)
    2. BB8 goes home in about two weeks.
    3. BB8 AND R2D2 go home in about two weeks. (This is a possibility, the ministry may decide that if it’s safe enough for BB8 than it’s safe enough for R2.)
    4. BB8 goes home in two weeks like #2 above and then R2D2 stay another couple of months for things to get into a routine before he joins BB8 at home. (This is the one their social worker is pushing for.)

    That all being said, this depends on things “going according to plan”. There are people involved in this plan and if they don’t follow the necessary steps or things go downhill in some way this could totally change. In that case their would be a fifth option:

        5. BB8 and R2D2 are here long term. (This is the last resort, the ministry’s goal is always reunification.)


    One Year With R2D2 - Another Fostering Update


    Fostering has been a growing experience for our family in the last year and a half.

    Honestly, I don’t think it’s something we are particular good at nor do we feel like God has called us to it.

    We are doing it simply because we see a need and we have the space.

    I don’t think a person needs to feel called to foster. The Bible tells us time and time again to look after the orphans and fatherless, if we are Christians we should be doing that in some way.

    It’s not something that’s a calling, it’s already been commanded.


    One Year With R2D2 - Another Fostering Update


    That all being said. If R2 and BB8 end up leaving our home I’m not sure what we will do.

    After we saw Buzz and Woody go home so suddenly and then end up back in care a couple months later we’re actually leaning towards taking a break for a few months so that incase R2 and BB8 end up back in care we can take them back right away.

    That all being said, we really have no idea what the future holds. But whether or not we have another foster placement we’ve already said, if these two go home and then end up back in care, there will always be a place for them in our home.

    Or they may be here for years. Only God knows and only time will tell!


    P.S. I’m planning on sending out my first personal newsletter in a long time, hopefully today if life and babies allow. At this point I’m hoping to send one out every three months or so and then maybe increase it to once a month when we don’t have an under one year old in our home. If you want to get the newsletter, sign up here.


    One Year With R2D2 - Another Fostering Update


    R2D2 Gets a Sidekick

    I had full intentions of writing a fostering update today. Next Saturday marks one year since R2D2 came into our home, I guess I’ll write that update next week, for now, here’s a mini (or not so mini) update.

    On Wednesday we got a call and on Thursday R2D2’s little sister came into our home. In sticking with the Star Wars theme, her nickname online will be BB8.

    BB8 was our one exception when we changed our range of acceptance last year.

    She isn’t quite six months old and as of right now we have no idea how long she’ll be here.

    I’m hoping to have more to share in next week’s update but I just wanted to share this for now.

    Thanks to everyone who has prayed for us on our fostering journey!


    If you are curious, our foster care timeline is here.

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